Physical Appearance And Its Effect On Lifestyle

Physical appearance is the very first impression people get of someone else, whether they like it or not. Sometimes they're judged for it, sometimes they aren't, and sometimes they judge themselves because of it. They can think down on themselves, and never give themselves the happiness they deserve because they think they're ugly. Other times, people will get what they want because others think they are good-looking. And sometimes, physical appearance will be manipulated to change people's impressions or opinions. This judgement can affect how people live.

If people are ugly, or think they are ugly, they often don't have happy lives. They are insecure and think they don't deserve to be happy. One example of this is in Hero Type by Barry Lyga. The main character, Kevin ("Kross") is always saying he doesn't deserve to be thought of as a hero, because he's only an ugly, pimply teenager. Although he saved Leah Muldoon from a high-profile felon, he doesn't want to accept praise from anyone. He doesn't understand why everyone now looks up to him, and he resents their gratitude. And maybe, without even realizing it, he took the Army ribbons off of his new car and sparked a huge debate about freedom of speech, in which most people disagreed with his opinion, to get people off of his back with the kindness. He was wired to think that only the handsome or beautiful people can be successful and admired, which is unfortunately true sometimes.

Sometimes when people are good-looking, they get what they want because of it, and have easier lives. In Catching Fire by Suzanne Collins, when Finnick is first introduced to the readers, Katniss says that during his Games, he got many gifts from sponsors since he was so young, handsome, and charming, but many of the other, plainer tributes got nothing. Right from the start, the citizens of the Capitol were very attached to Finnick, almost like he was a pet. To them, this handsome boy from the run-down districts of Panem was better than the other tributes. The citizens of the Capitol wanted to do anything in their power to help him, and he deserved their help, but they gave it to him for the wrong reasons. They cared about him for something so vain and shallow as his appearance, and not who he was.

Since appearance can be so important, it's often manipulated to give off a certain message. In The Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins, Katniss's stylist, Cinna, carefully calculated and planned all of her outfits so that they would help her. During the tribute parade, he wanted her to look strong, bold, and brave, so he made an outfit that could be set on fire. It told the citizens of the country, specifically the sponsors, that she wanted to be noticed, because she had the potential to win the Games. After she won the Games, Cinna dressed her in a simple, sweet dress, with makeup that made her seem soft and girlish. She and Peeta had caused a rebellious spark in the Districts by attempting to commit suicide, which would leave no victor in the Games, so she needed to seem innocent, like she had put the nightlock berries in her mouth to save Peeta, who she supposedly loved, and not to start another rebellion. The Capitol may have hurt her and her loved ones otherwise. Cinna saw bodies and clothing as art, which has messages and emotions in it that will change how other people think, ultimately affecting the way they live and how they treat other people.

Physical appearance is not something taken lightly in our world. It can determine what we think of ourselves, and the kind of life we will let ourselves live. It will affect how other people treat us, and what they think of us, sometimes hurting us, sometimes helping us. There will be times that we want to change how we look, and sometimes we do, just so we and other people will view us with a different attitude. We care so much about first impressions, only sometimes getting new ones.

Writing Challenge Post 2 - What the World Can't Take

This is a boy

climbing on a rock.

Trying to get to the top.

He always tries.

He tries

to be funny.

And he is.

He tries 
to make people happy.

And he does.

He tries

to do what is right.

And he can.

He tries

to make something of himself.

And he will.

Funny.
Happy.
Fair.

Successful.

This is what the world tries to be.

This is what the world can't take from me.

The world 
wants to be 
my brother.

Social Justice in My Elementary School

My old elementary school is what's known as an inclusion school. That means that general education and special education students were mixed in the classrooms. It was a wonderful place for me and everyone there, and I made a lot of friends, all with their own problems and difficult stories. But those things didn't matter to me, since we were taught not to judge people for their problems and disabilities, as other people often do.

People with disabilities and disorders are often judged. They are thought of as stupid, weird, and crazy, all because they can't do everything other people can do, or they do it differently. This is a stereotype, and stereotypes are wrong, depicting the subject in a crude, mean way. This leads to handicapped people being segregated from others, put into different classrooms, schools, or locations. They are shielded from the rest of society, and the people who do that to them believe they are doing what's right. But that just thickens a barrier that shouldn't have been created. It makes them feel disliked and insecure about something that makes them unique, even if it is an obstacle. My elementary school built a door in that barrier.

My school, The Children's School, accepted all types of kids. In every classroom, there were kids with IEPs and kids without IEPs, as well as three teachers: one general education, one special education, and one teaching assistant. We were taught by all three of the teachers. Instead of separating us, we were mixed together, and we had everything in one room. We talked and laughed and played with everyone, so we just thought of each other as regular kids, despite obvious differences in learning and social skills. We did activities such as reading books about kids with disabilities, and making Venn diagrams about how general education and special education kids were similar to and different from one another. Yes, there were times when fits were thrown and kids were taken out of the classroom, but the teachers told us why, and we didn't blame them for it. They didn't hide the fact that these kids were "different", but they made it something that we just knew and didn't judge.

This is how I wish it could always be - mixing all sorts of people, disabled or not, and understanding the differences without being narrow-minded and judgmental. Why draw a line when it isn't needed?

Writing Challenge Post 1 - Windows

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When you look into a window from the outside, you see into something. You see the inside of a home or workplace, and you get a glimpse into someone's life, exactly what they are doing at that one moment in time. And maybe they will never be doing that one thing again, but it happened, and you were there, acknowledging their existence. And isn't that the tiniest bit special? Getting out of your own life to be in someone else's? 

Sometimes all you see is your reflection. But it's not the security of being insecure that you find in your bedroom mirror. You are in public, among other people passing by, baring yourself to the world as much as you are hiding. No one notices you. You're still there, though. And you aren't focusing on your flaws, but looking at your reflection without judgement. It is shimmery and unclear like your soul. You just need to know that you exist. You want to feel important in a world that makes you so small. Let go of everything while it surrounds you. That is the best way to see yourself. 

And other times, you can't see anything. The window is high off the ground, and it has caught the light, but you are still squinting, squinting. Shielding your eyes from the sun,  trying to make out some shape or figure, but you can't see anything. So you walk away, not knowing what's on the other side of the glass. But you have to know. You NEED to. Your brain comes up with all sorts of ideas, until one sticks, because it is so perfect and wonderful that it MUST be real. Who would have thought that creativity could be thrown out the window, hoping to be caught.

Windows show you what is, and what could be.

"'Sick-lit'? Evidently Young Adult Fiction is Too Complex for the Daily Mail" by Michelle Pauli

Michelle Pauli's response article to the Daily Mail's article "Sick-lit" claims that their opinion of young adult literature being too disturbing and dark is wrong. She says, unlike the Daily Mail's opinion, that the books, such as The Fault in Our Stars, are very moving, and sensitively deal with controversial issues such as terminal illness, depression, sex, and substance abuse.  Michelle Pauli says that young adult fiction writers care about their readers, knowing that what they write will affect them, and so they are sure to make their writing suitable for them. She also says that, unlike what the Daily Mail thinks, young adult fiction often is written to protect the readers, so they can explore the world and its issues in the safety of a story.

Michelle Pauli uses a lot of craft moves to push her idea. She gives her own opinion and tells the reader about her experiences with these books, such as The Fault in Our Stars. She references the Daily Mails's article in a negative light very often, arguing against many of their claims. She also quotes John Green, writer of The Fault in Our Stars, an author named James Dawson, and Kate Wilson, the managing director of publishing company Nosy Crow to back up her claim.

I agree with her opinion on how the books affect the readers. These books give readers insight into real-life problems, no matter how dark they are, but it's safe for them since it's always within the pages. It is, after all, a story, made-up plots and characters, which makes it better than teens learning about and dealing with these issues in the real world, but also helps prepare them should they encounter it there too.

How I Live Now by Meg Rosoff

     Being Lonely

            Daisy from How I Live Now is an anorexic girl trying to deal with her family problems when she’s sent off to a war-torn England. When her father moves on from his dead wife and marries Davina, Daisy feels anger and resentment towards the two of them. This is because she feels unwanted in her new “family”. Her desire to feel loved and wanted leads her to doing things that are irrational, and perhaps to some readers, controversial.

            Daisy thinks that her father no longer cares about her and that her stepmother never has. Her mother died after giving birth to Daisy, so she also feels like it’s her fault that she died, and that her father is trying to break all ties with her mother, including her. When Davina enters the picture, Daisy resents her because, to her, she doesn't belong with her father since her mom wasn't supposed to die. But with her father occupied with Davina’s pregnancy, it’s clear that he has moved on from his dead wife and maybe has forgotten about his daughter, but Daisy just won’t be swayed. She is unwilling to accept that he has a new life with a new family.

            Daisy’s want for attention leads her to becoming anorexic. She told the reader towards the beginning of the story that she wanted to cause trouble for her father, but then she just wanted to be thin. But he still doesn't realize how lonely and unwanted she feels, so he just pays for a bunch of therapists and ships her off to England. Eventually she recovers when she realizes that wanting to be thin in a society whose main goal is now staying alive during a war is pointless. “All this time I've been starving, and without noticing I said it out loud, so Piper said So have I, and without even looking up I thought No you haven’t, not in the same way and I hope you never are.” (Pg 134) She realizes that starving isn't making her happy, it's making her feel even more hurt and alone, and she doesn't want anyone else to feel that way, just how I wouldn't want anyone else to feel as sad and insecure as I do sometimes. But also while in England, she falls in love with her cousin. I think the reason she lets the relationship progress further and further until they begin having sex, is because she likes the feeling of being loved, like there’s someone who wants to break her walls after years of building them up because she was ignored. Also, in her eyes, her father’s relationship with Davina is “forbidden”, so she’s kind of trying to spite him with one of her own. It’s a “how do you like that?” sort of thing, and although they obviously love each other, it’s still something readers might find strange and unacceptable.

            Daisy represents teens who feel lonely and uncared for. The ones who will hurt themselves because they feel like they deserve it or because it’s their only way to ask for help, for kindness. I've had those moments of doubt where my insecurities get the better of me. I’ll look in the mirror and it will show me someone ugly and annoying and weird, and it will tell me that no one really cares. And even though I don’t really have a reason to feel like that, it still makes me want to do something rash so people will finally understand that I’m a little vulnerable and sad sometimes. But then I remind myself that I don’t honestly feel that way. And that’s what Daisy does, reminds them that they’re going to stop feeling so alone and that they won’t feel the need to abuse themselves to find people who will care about them.

Eleanor & Park by Rainbow Rowell

         This book is a misfit love story, and a very touching one. It's about how two people who were both a little bit broken fixed each other. Eleanor is the overweight, frizzy-red-haired, new girl who always has mismatched men's clothing on, but she doesn't seem to care what people say about her. She finds almost all the new kids in her school shallow and rude (nothing like the kids at her old school, who loved her for her quirky personality and sense of humor), except for Park, the rich Korean boy with only a few on-again, off-again friends who was kind enough to share his seat on the bus with her that first day. Thus begins a friendship between the two, sharing comics and music on the bus, but never talking. Eventually the silence breaks and they fall in love. But all the while, Eleanor is sinking deeper into her sadness and insecurities, as well as her fear of and anger at her step-father.

      

      Eleanor is a very independent, closed-off person and she has a lot of trust issues. This is most likely because her father abandoned her family, and her step-father is abusive, so she was forced to take care of herself. This really shows when Park gets into a fight with someone after they insulted her. Park just wanted to defend her and show that he loves her, but Eleanor got very angry, because she doesn't want other people to stick up for her or make a big deal out of her insecurities. It makes her feel too vulnerable, which she believes would lead to her getting hurt. This also happens when Park wants her to meet his family. Thinking that they wouldn't accept her, Eleanor avoids going to his house. I think part of the reason why she does this is also that she believes that if his family doesn't like her, then he doesn't love her either. She honestly doesn't think that he loves her, and doesn't trust him enough to fall in love with him. Eventually though, towards the end of the book, she opens up and admits that she loves him. Her first love made her open up to the people who really cared about her.

     Although Park's family circumstances are much better, his father thinks he isn't manly enough. He doesn't understand him, and although Park has his mom's unconditional love and support, it's not enough - he's lonely and feels misunderstood. His father is always pushing him to be more manly, having made him take karate classes from a young age, trying to get him to learn to drive, comparing him to his brother, and just trying to force him to be his ideal son. But Eleanor truly accepts him, and everything that his father doesn't understand about him is another thing for her to love. One example of this is when Park starts wearing black eyeliner. His father thinks it's too girly and that he shouldn't wear it, but Eleanor thinks it makes him look even more handsome, and that it's not too girly for a boy to wear. His first love gave him someone who loves him for who he is.

    To me, this book pushed the idea that you have to trust the person you love and break down your walls, but it wasn't corny because these two are each such quirky characters, with their taste in old music and love for comics, but also their social differences, personal issues, and a genuine love for one another that's so rare in teenagers, making the entire story very unique.

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